Things in the dating world have taken a sharp turn down a dark sketchy alley. No one actually dates anymore. Standards got lower, legs got easier to open, & roles got reversed.
“We just chillin” – Chillin = the cheap shit! Something that involves no effort, money or public appearance. Chillin would have other been known as the courting stage. Where you show interest and begin the process of having a person around for their company.
“we just kickin it”= I’m getting to know this person. In this stage, you actually can be seen in public! (you lucky thang you) This is when you get past the infatuation and actually put in effort to get to know the person you are spending time with. This is the limbo stage, it could go wither way very quickly, there is a thin line between the friend zone and becoming a boo.
“Finally dating” A relationship, clearly defined. **Disclaimer: just because you have been “kickin it” more than 9 months does not mean you’re in a relationship, this will be for another post, but is definitely how you get your feelings hurt.** When you’re past the first two stages, its normally asked, now a guy may not out right ask you, and if he doesn’t ladies you need to ask him what it is you are to his life. Men live by titles so trust, no matter what stage you’re in it has a label.
The fact that a break down was necessary is quite an issue. The things gentlemen used to do is almost non existent. Men and women have become so comfortable, the need to actually court and date, especially before sex, is unnecessary. Women started stepping up doing the things men would have normally done, and with that, men realized they no longer had to work as hard, if at all. I’m not sure which generation dropped the ball, but its most certainly not looking good for the future. Now days if a woman challenges a man to do something as simple as, oh I don’t know, open a door! Guys look at you as if you’ve asked them to purchase you a home. Lets face it, standards, expectation and reality have gotten low.