Its often said how you are never more attractive until you’re taken. I had someone to ask why that is and there are a few reasons why someone who is already claimed have a line around the block. In some cases its a ‘mine’ attitude, someone just wants to know they can have you and no one else. In the same way a dog will pee on every single tree it passes, just because it wants to mark its territory, certain people just want to collect and have just to have marked as their own.
Married women & men, come with medium risk and low expectation. Guys like approaching married women 9 times out of 10 for sex. Men who date married women have it figured out, there’s no commitment, necessary time, usually based solely on words, and no real effort to put in. Easy.
Women dating married men in most cases never work out. Women tend to allow emotions to get involved, and end up being hurt or ending unsuccessful. Dating (or sleeping with) someone you know is already taken goes back to my ‘the ‘honest’ cheater’ post, these are situations when you know very well you will never be a priority and there is no commitment, and you accept those terms when you get involved. The main rule in this game is, that you’re not allowed any real emotion. There is no texting, calling, dates, anything, that causes intimate relations (other than sex) because you’re not entitled to the perks of that position and you’ve accepted the terms of what you sign up for, which is to be the jump-off.
Now don’t get me wrong, the jump-offs get some (monetary) perks, hush money, gifts, trips, and a lavish lifestyle to make you feel like you’re important. Here is the issue, over time, you get comfortable and forget the rules of your position, and then need to be replaced, remember if he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. You birds don’t let Olivia Pope get you killed, that’s scripted, life doesn’t work out for you side chicks like that.
In many cases, people like to feel a sense of importance, which is why they go after a someone already taken, its an ego thing, knowing they can take something. I think up next we need to break down the rules of the jump-off, and what it is to be the jump-off.