Listen, there are things in life that are mandatory, standards and expectation, there is no way in hell you’re suppose to be seeking praise for things you’re suppose to do anyway!!!
No, I’m not applauding or rewarding that you’ve never been to jail, I’ve never heard any parent say a goal was to raise a criminal, law breaking child, I didn’t know that was really an option.
Now i definitely understand graduating from college is tough and a big deal to people, however, when you decide to enter higher education its kinda already understood that the end goal is to graduate, so good job on finishing, but that’s what you were suppose to do anyway.
Praising effort is like getting a trophy for simply showing up, in life you’re expected to try, to face challenges and to pursue things even if difficult. There is no praise for trying, now if it ends up in a result you were seeking, then acknowledgement for reaching a goal is great, but then again that was a set goal, so it was expected you reach it. Getting good grades, being a productive member of society, a good parent, doing a job well the list goes on and on are things that are naturally expected, no praise for that, note how these things usually don’t get any type of recognition until you’ve messed them up & don’t poorly, that’s life, as long as you’re doing what you’re expected & suppose to do you go unnoticed, but oh the second you mess up, it all comes down, parents blow a lid, spouses throw tantrums, bosses flip out, why? because that wasn’t the expectation set.
All I’m saying is there are certain things, that just will not be praised when you’re suppose to do them! Every time you seek someone’s recognition you’re asking for judgement and approval. If you say you’re going to do something, just do it- for yourself, which in reality is damn near impossible. Humans seek the approval & recognition of others, we have to be wanted, praised and made to feel important, but when you begin to do something just for praise rather than things you’re expected to do anyway, you just look needy & self centered. I’m sure though, it sucks to not be recognized for your job or efforts, but you signed up for it and agreed to do whatever it is, so you’ve gotta just take the fact there is no special award for you doing your job or what it is you’re suppose to do!