The older I get the more I realize I began to channel my inner 5 year old, you know the ones, always asking why. Call me paranoid, mean whatever but I think more of you need to adopt the question ‘why’. On a regular basis I see people introduce themselves into new relationships and experiences ‘just because, the most important factor with any relationship or decision lies behind the answer to why, you’d be surprised at the answer you get.
Why do you want to be with that person, why do you want kids, why do you want a new career? Why Why Why…Every decision is usually already predetermined by something a person wants. Before you even take the steps toward getting what you want, you already have in mind why you want something, be it for selfish reasons or not.
Asking why in no way means you’re doubting that decision, in fact, I think it does the exact opposite. Knowing without a doubt why something is brings to light the intent, expectation and reasoning behind it. Kids are probably the most honest & genuinely inquisitive people around (next to drunks), so you know when they ask its something its because they want to know and they will give you (normally) an honest answer.
When asking, the more important element is the answer, the actual answer, not what you want to hear. Some of you know the outcome of your decisions long before they play out, but because you didn’t listen to the answer given. Just take a day, all day and ask why, to every single thing, and really look into and give yourself honest answers, you’d be surprised how much crap & people you walk away from, just like 5 year olds, cause if they don’t like your answer, they have no intention of sharing with you or being your friend.