So every 3 to 4 months I get irritated by someone & I go on a spree of cleaning, no not my home or car, but my surroundings. Just last week it sparked another round and I challenge you to do the same. Go through your recent phone bill or email & look at who has been in touch with you, those people you keep and the rest, well, toss it out. I am a firm believer and getting rid of part time people. Now some of you may be willing to deal with it but I for one just cant. Thought I’d share a post I created and publicly posted.
I cut people out of my life with no emotional ties. I’ll do it without warning or room for second chance. What i will NOT allow are part time people. If I go through my recent phone history or even this month’s phone bill and you don’t appear, do not expect to hear from me. I am getting too old to give a damn what anyone thinks. If I feel for any second you are disloyal, phony or around just for YOUR benefit I will let you go, everybody ain’t meant to stay forever.
Now I’ve been called mean, arrogant and selfish for this. Well… I don’t care, and the main people who had complaints were people that clearly don’t know me. If you call me with an emergency or needing a favor I wait a full 5 days before I return any messages to see what you wanted, cause I already know it was just that- something you wanted. Fact of the matter is if you’re not selfish and willing to put you first then who will? What are the benefits that these people provide to your life? If you are not an asset to my life or helping me to become better as far as I can tell you are not needed. As hard as it may be sometime you’ve got to be willing to just let go. Even accepting & acknowledging that people need to go is a start. It take a special kind of fed up to actually go through with kicking people to the curb. The sooner people put themselves in focus, stop caring about other people’s opinions & can be okay standing alone if need be the better. If its one thing growing up on the East-side of Detroit taught me, its never trust anyone. Hell there are people I share a bloodline with I don’t trust, so you can imagine how I treat any regular person. I’ve seen too many people deal with bs from people who have their own motive, disloyal, and but then complain! You don’t get to complain about what you allow to happen in your life, if you don’t like it-get rid of it.
There are 2 places where you should have complete happiness & things your way: your head & your house. There will be enough people trying to stab you in the back, get over on you, let you down, use you, harm you & talk about you, for you to openly allow these clowns in. The people that do this usually only know you for a short time anyway- see the connection?! Let go of these people and just watch how things change.
Dad always said “You are your surroundings” so I’m asking for you to look around and answer: who are you?
I need to be on here more often. You have so many I don’t even know about. And that’s real. Part timers aren’t needed. Heck I barely even allow full timers in. You have to be picky about who you let into your circle.
Trust me… I know all about people that swear to be ride or die, but as soon as “stuff gets crazy” you are left knee deep in bs back to the wall and surrounded by those that pray for your down fall. I have very few friends. I don’t need too many. If you walk with the wise, you’ll become wise. If you walk with the foolish you’ll be destoryed. And its foolish to keep this “frosted fakes” around anyways. Kudos to you.
Yea I feel you on that one. Its funny though how when certain situations come the ones that claim they understand you or say they are there for you be the first ones to abandon ship. I say fck em, why? well because those will be the same ones to throw you under the bus time and time again. Plus who needs someone who is always going to be MIA when stuff gets real. I’d rather fight 100 ppl alone than fight 1 with a bunch of fake friends. That’s why I agree with 3rd leg (pause), my circle is small and I don’t need it to get any bigger.. It’s kinda like that Drake song “no new friends, no new friends, still down with the same niccas from day one!”