OK ladies, we need to call out some new tomfoolery that’s been going on. Just because you have sex with a man that does not make him your man, boo, boyfriend or anything. Most times, sex- it just sex. Wham bam thank you ma’am. If you have already had more than 2 “boyfriends” since the new year its pretty safe you’re standing at the door of heauxville. If you smashed within a week (7 days) of meeting a man and this is a repeat pattern for you, heaux. If the only place you take a “friend” when he comes to visit is your bedroom (even if nothing happens) you are sending very clear signals of a heaux. If you have messed with someone that “just broke up with his girl” you my friend are a jump-off (aka rebound) you’re just there to help him get over the old girl, by getting on top of a new one. Know too when you get out of a relationship, the difference between a man you sleep with being the rebound vs your jump-off. Don’t go falling in love with this man. In the words of some deal older ladies “Let him crack your back, blow your hair back, then pack” – leave.
Men typically will give you clear indication as to if you will be his jump-off or he plans on actually dating you. Actually, its okay to have a jump-off, and even be one if you’re okay with it, however in the words of my girl LaStrick :control the tempo of the jumping. Before you take this ride if nothing else, know what you are in the situation and decide accordingly.
Attempting to justify your actions by slapping a relationship title on the situation does not fool anyone. You can try convincing (yourself really) all you want, but fact of the matter is you’re just in denial about your heauxish ways. The sooner you embrace it and act as such the better your life will be and actually the judgement goes away when you just own it. Heaux are professional and appreciated these days. So if you’re gonna do something dammit own it and be the best at it. Ladies you need to maintain power in these situations because unfortunately when a man does it, he’s just playing the game, but when we do it, you become a heaux.