So if anyone out there watches Scandal like I do you saw the moment Olivia Pope tells the president he must “earn” her. For my guys that don’t watch to quickly bring you up to speed, there is an off again on again love affair in which the side chick is tired of being told she is the love of his life and tells him he must now earn her to be with her. So after this scene I will admit I liked seeing Liv stand up for herself, however, I also watched my twitter & other social media sites blow up with women proclaiming “earn me” to men around the world.
Now some of you birds ain’t worth being the free prize given away with a happy meal let alone to be earned. Understand first you are not a form of currency, although women around the world are sold on a regular basis you should not have figured a monetary value in which you can be bought or ‘earned’. If you find you’re one of the many screaming this out… well you’re not that important.
Respect, trust & loyalty are undoubtedly things that have to be earned. In the same sense, a woman should indeed be earned. But women you have to be worth it. A man should put forth effort to to show that he wants you. Guys, just because you’ve taken a girl on a few dates does not mean you’ve earned anything more than a companion. Are your intentions genuine & clearly stated, are you putting emphasis on more than money being spent & are you ‘earning’ respect? These questions matter.
So what did Liv mean when she demanded the president earn her? Now up until this point, Fitz was winning, he had his main thang & jump off playing on the same team. She means make her a priority not an option, for her not to be #1 but the only one. To be respected and spoiled as such, now spoiled doesn’t always mean spending money on, to take interest in her interest, at least learn about what she likes, spend time with & on her.
Now I KNOW that scene gave some of you side chicks LIFE! Howwwwwever. Remember, that was written, you birds are still outcast to your designated days. The problem with the women going around screaming this to men now is they want to be warned but don’t know what to look for or appreciate other than money. You birds will never be earned, you’ve been bought. If you are one yelling this every chance you get you will never be earned, if you were, a man would already been showing you everything you need and that statement would be unnecessary. Real women don’t have to be ‘earned’ because they are appreciated, respected and treated like a priority to begin with, remember that next time you tell a man he needs to ‘earn’ you, chances are you’re not getting the treatment you want for a reason.