You’re the sidechick

“The O.T.H.E.R. woman: an Overplayed Toy He Eventually Releases”

If he calls/comes over at a specific yet routine time of day- its a reason he always frees up at that time.

You always pay for your own stuff when you’re out- he is not paying taxes on the side chick, no maam, you’ll be buying your own burger.

All time together is scheduled on his time only- yea, he’s busy alright.

If all the places you go are more than a 20 mile drive- its not because the places way out are nice, its so no one he knows is likely to run into you.

He always comes to your place or the closest you’ve seen to his is the driveway…

If he makes it a point to remind you that he’s spending time with you- “I’m here aren’t I?” sound familiar. Meaning its a privilege to be on his time.

You’re holiday is the day before or after the actual celebrated day-the actual day is spent with his actual girlfriend.

He only calls or comes over at night- you may not even be the side chick, you’re just the booty call.

If you get tackled down for trying to take a picture- playas know there can be no incriminating evidence.

If he asks what kind of stuff (jewelry, clothes, perfume ect) you like, and you never receive any of those things- congrats you just helped picked the main chick’s gift.

His friends openly flirt with you and he does nothing to put them in their place- you know the saying “it ain’t no fun if the homies cant have none”

You may hear about his family & friends but never actually met or get to go around anyone.

He never actually calls you- I get it we all text, but if you never get a call something is up.

If he says you’re the ‘main girl’, ‘#1 girl”, or in the event he’s “too hurt from the last”, or just not ready and you’re just his girl (not to be confused with girlfriend)  all equals assistant girlfriend aka side chick.



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  1. Reblogged this on You Forgot Your Common Sense and commented:

    So before I talk about the rules of being a sidechick, I first need to help some of you identify if you ARE the sidechick.

  2. While I don’t disagree that we men as a species are often not the sharpest knife in the drawer, mostly because we let our little buddy make all our decisions for us, having FWB’s can work as long as both are all above board and open with it. Now in this situation, the guys are definitely screwing over the “OTHER” woman but girls you have some blame in this also. As a guy if my dick’s hard then any port in a storm will do but for women they tend to cloud the issue with things like love and emotional involvement. The first bit of advice I would give any women is to assume that everything that comes out of a man’s mouth is a lie and then work from there. Always keep in mind that if you are the OTHER woman then he’s cheating on someone to see you, so when the next OTHER woman shows up it’s not going to end well.

    • Whew!!!!! All that truth! I know there are some cases when women do choose to be the other woman, sometimes it’s just plain ole getting played. I like to think for the first few months EVERYONE is lying, about everything- the person you meet first is the “representative”. FWB can definitely work so long as there are clear rules and understandings both parties agree to.

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