Allow me to be straight forward; new relationships make people stupid .Not just romantically but in the workplace, money transactions, media, everything. When entering into something new along with presenting yourself in the best light you want to be liked and accepted.Stupidity doesn’t care your gender, race, religion, anything, if you’re human, you have a venerability to becoming stupid. This is okay- it’s human nature. The real test is how fast to you bounce back and reclaim who you really are.
When exploring something new, we find in a way, you’re kissing a**. You’re adapting your ways to match the situation, liking what they like, going out of your way to stand apart from the norm, even willing to try things you wouldn’t normally. Although these things may be exciting – they aren’t you, you forget who you are & what you need to present to fit the mold you’ve been presented with.
Even the most independent thinkers at some point will even go above and beyond to showcase how different they are, thus looking a bit foolish. We’ve all seen that friend, who is putting up with a bad situation, and even know they are in a bad situation but stay? Well, that is the fool, the fool knows when they have allowed their personality to change and stay. I really think there should be an IQ compatibility test involved because what you should not do, is already be stupid, then date. It just sets you up to go further down a spiral. Wanna test your level of stupidity, challenge your situation against your standards. Make a rule, set something you swear you “won’t” do, create a check list of “must haves”, ect. then see how long before you’re changing, forgetting or bending your rules, and if that doesn’t work, see how much bs you’re willing to deal with in comparison to other situations. You stick around- *ding ding* you’re just as stupid.
Oh but then there is my favorite, playing the fool. Ahhhh this is where the game changes. To beat your mark you must know your mark. The best way to play stupid, keep quiet, about everything, you’ll notice the more you don’t talk, the more people are willing to tell you their entire life story, as a tactic they believe will get you to in turn open up to them. I was always the seen and not heard kid, I’ve always known more than I let on, I didn’t really need to say anything because people would always self-destruct. Playing the fool, allows another person to think they are getting away with something while you set up any necessary moves you’ve got to make. If you take nothing from this, learn to listen, & just smile & nod, if you can’t see it for yourself, don’t believe it, and know when to reveal any important information, timing is everything.