You Forgot Your Common Sense

As if wanting a celebrity relationship isn’t enough I’ve got to call out those of you who want a “perfect relationship”, those of you who have the whole picture already in your head topped with a white picket fence and a dog. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. A partner should compliment you, once you admit you’re not perfect you’re expectation for that “perfect” relationship will become more realistic.

First, people like to be acknowledge for something great, its within you to become jealous and want to be & have better than others. People want perfect relationships simply because they’ve sen other crap filled relationships around them, so they’ve gotta be the goodie-two-shoes to flaunt something that’s appealing. Y’all are full of shit and need to work on confidence and accepting yourself. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.

Looking for something perfect,  will have you by yourself for a long time, simply because you’ve come up with this list of ‘must haves’ that you want, key word here, want. The perfect relationship, comprises of just the things you need (or think you need) to have a successful relationship. Women want a long list of things, men, not so much, they can list everything they’d like in one breath. I know no woman wants to hear that they need to lower their standards, I just think they need to be more realistic about them, stop wanting things you’re not!

Ask yourself why do you need those things to have a perfect relationship, just because someone has all the qualities from your perfect picture doesn’t mean they are a compatible match with you or will be the person you want as a whole- but that’s what you wanted right? Not to mention people over time grow, and with growth comes change, the person you meet and like, may not be the person you like years down the road, it is possible to fall out of love as time passes and people change- that’s okay!

Lets be honest, wanna know why people cheat? Its because this perfect person doesn’t exist so people take traits from multiple people to add up to everything on their list of perfection. Women will find their perfect man, and the funny thing to me is, he will leave, because she wasn’t perfect for him. Now the reason this is funny to me, is because you’ve focused so much on building something perfect, you weren’t perfect (in that case).

Word of advice, never appear to be perfect, because when you mess up there is no where for you to go but down, a relationship is about finding someone that can compliment you, your lifestyle, dreams and issues (cause you will have some, that’s life).