I overheard a conversation of a woman saying how her child took a turn for the worse because there are no more role models & heroes in the world. My first thought was, “well, wtf is wrong with you being your kids role model” then I had to think, do we not have role models?
Often times people use role models as an example of what one can do with their lives, sets the bar, so to speak. Here’s the issue with that, why let someone else’s life be the determining factor for yours (or your child’s) why just set a limit on what you can do? Shouldn’t the objective to be to surpass that point? (although I know some of you are really content being C students) Anyone can inspire a child to achieve their potential in life. ANY ONE.
Is “role model” a more apt word for the figures we’d like our children to look up to and take an interest in? How about “inspiration”? Or just “interesting person”? The thing about a role model in any light- they’re honest. If your kid sees the top drug dealer living a life thats appealing and begins to imitate is that not a role model? That dealer is gonna tell your kid straight up what he does and how to get it.
Here’s my thing with wanting your kid to have a role model and be like that other person, you’re leaving room for another person to raise your freakin kid! So if your kid turns out to be something you don’t care for, ask what influences they had to inspire those actions.
Some people have a gift they want to share and they want to be a role model, others just live their life their way and a kid takes a liking to it and wants the same, they didn’t ask to be anyone’s role model, but since thats what a kid saw the options become limited, and that kid decided to follow.
In other words, you can be an active factor in how your kid turns out, or accept how another person ends up raising them. So many parents are so busy ‘making a living’ they forget to make a life. No, role-models aren’t always positive, law abiding, upstanding citizens, however if its appealing, it becomes good enough and a reality of your surroundings. Its hard to look up to something you don’t know exists.