Okay Sugas, there are a few of you birds who have it all wrong when trying to date/marry or grow with a man.
UNTIL HE IS WHERE HE WANTS TO BE AS A MAN no matter what the circumstance until he has reached his own goals and gets to a point he can look himself in the mirror and be complete you will always have to battle outside sources that will tug at him that can eventually make him miserable. You can not expect someone to complete you when they aren’t whole.
Your version of “good enough” doesn’t matter! You do not make a man, yes you’re a part of his life you can even compliment him, but you do not make him, and if you find that you are-then you don’t have a man yet. You can show traits to a boy of how to be a gentleman but not a man.
There is NO circumstance you can force a man into that can make him grow up or change. None, not them kids, not that check, doesn’t matter if you bailed him out of jail, it happens when he is ready. Period. Everyone has a different idea of what a man is, if the two ideas aren’t the same and one is trying to force their idea… not gonna work. This always makes me curious, if you didn’t like what you got, why take it home?
“Well if I’m just trying to help build, motivate and push him in the right direction why would he hate me?” #1, did he ask for you help? or are you once again pushing him because you don’t like who he currently is? 2) Motivating him to do what exactly? Are these HIS dreams or yours? 3) Are you building him solely for his well-being or does this somehow involve you? (selfish) Men want no manipulation of any kind.
Tip: Stop allowing these women so much control over who and who you shape out to be, ever notice how much you fail when she’s gone? Its because you WEREN’T READY on your own as a man first!
Change- now we’ve talked about this before, listen, you knew what you got when you go it. Don’t try to change anyone. If every weekend that man eats pizza and hot dogs that’s who he is. Now you can think you’re doing something, but again, you’re changing him for you, to be what you want.
Here’s a tip women: Men want self-sufficient, secure, confident women. Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation — either materially or emotionally. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity. There is nothing than seeing a “grown woman” depend on someone. “Never let what a man brings to the table be all you have to eat”. Remember Superman was a scripted character.
Alright people, I’m out, have an awesome weekend, tell someone the truth. Y’all go read a book and improve yourself.
FMOT:@4gotcommonsense
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