The good ones don’t need to advertise

This past week I’ve been seeing & hearing mainly a lot of women talking down on how they’re so good, and men need to learn to keep good women blah blah blah. Do you birds ever to consider you’re not as great as you think you are?

There comes a point where constantly saying what you have, what you can do and how you can hold everything down yourself, you’re one of a kind…  is unappealing. Men are providers, so if you’re constantly reminding him you got it, there’s no point in him sticking around! All that talking, you’re over-selling yourself and lose all credibility.

What you present upfront is how you will be treated in the long run, so if you’re constantly running your mouth about how great you are, you’re going to appear to be looking down on others.

I’m so confused by all the people saying what a real man/woman is, well, glad to know you can tell someone else how they should be, but it amazes me that the one’s doing all this are single, so, you know what a good man/woman should be, but don’t have one.

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  1. 3rdLegKickStand June 28, 2013 — 8:20 AM

    GRRR!!! PREACH!!!! O my gosh. People just need to shut their fucking faces.

    But what really rubbed me the right way was the “how you act is how you’ll be treated in the long run.” This girl was supposed to be this emotionless “badass” etc. And all that, and a few months later is the biggest emotion-filled wreck. I know you’ll say, “but 3rdLeg she was doing that so she wouldn’t get hurt.” Well I’m here to tell you to STFU as well. Don’t switch up the game half through. That’s like playing football then 3rd quarter say o its baseball now. -___- people get hurt its a part of life. Shit. You’ll get hurt putting on a false face and tryna show your true colors later on. And that would hurt a lot more.

    Yea my bad. Got personal. But yea all these sluts that are the perfect mate or whatever are the main ones getting cheated on, dumped, stabbed or single.

    • Well, I don’t think she was doing that so she wouldn’t get hurt, I think she wanted to appear to be a “badass” realistically I don’t know too many (young) females that are. Remember in the beginning you’re always getting to know “The Representative” . you don’t truly begin to see who the person is until months in. I do agree that it will get you hurt, but most people don’t know when to drop the act.

  2. @Do you birds ever to consider you’re not as great as you think you are?>>> Nope, not at all. Honestly? I probably have underestimated myself; even when I’m self-advertising..Lest anyone out there single EVER forget; self-advertising is the BEST type of hard sell. Trust and believe IF all things good needed NO advertising; the very top companys in the world wouldn’t pay so much for advertising (google it if you don’t believe me; companies will lay off folks before they drop their advertising campaigns. ….
    @There comes a point where constantly saying what you have, what you can do and how you can hold everything down yourself, you’re one of a kind… is unappealing. Men are providers, so if you’re constantly reminding him you got it, there’s no point in him sticking around! All that talking, you’re over-selling yourself and lose all credibility….>>I disagree, to an extent..I’m not into the whole Ms-Independent-Don’t-Need-a-Man…Been married(love IT) Been engaged(truly dig IT) and rarely have I decided to try being single..This is my 1st time and I have, yep!, loved it and needed to learn valuable lessons about myself..I highly! recommend every freshly single woman try it..Anyways the part I don’t agree with? Over selling…There is NO such thing when a woman is ready to date again..Least that’s my opinion..Sit back these days & wait for opportunity to arise to date? As IF a good man is just going to ring your doorbell on his own? You’ll be sitting there until Hell freezes over…Just doesn’t work that way anymore. My dance card wouldn’t be full IF I hadn’t been making it totally clear what I’m seeking ..And hawking my qualities via blogging & my mouth Lol..We are and should rightfully be our own best self advertisers..No different than sitting for an interview as a job applicant

    • Oh i know very well top companies believe in advertisement. However (just as women should do) give enough to gain interest. When I say “over-selling” I mean spill everything in the beginning. If something sounds too good to be true chances are, men will run. I know I do, and it’s not a good habit to keep but it is possible to make yourself sound SO good, a man will feel beneath you or that he may not live up enough to provide what you’re used to or even have a place in the woman’s world.
      I APPLAUD you on learning to be single!!! I do think its something every woman should experience, and not because they feel like they have to, but to actually be okay, really okay at heart being single, learning about themselves and doing things for themselves.

      • Ahhh good points. Duly noted..lol. And I’ll keep that in mind. Yep, this walk in the desert time(even though I can’t lie its not been an easy walk to walk..) has been SO good for me. I totally agree more women, especially Sistas, should take a breather between relationships. Just to exhale ..this has been the only time in my life I’ve done that. Now I feel IF a person can’t enjoy time alone/love themselves; they can’t fully love another. Or least thats my take on it

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