And then Sugas, there is you getting played.
Never give someone the opportunity to waste your time twice. Doesn’t matter if you’ve been friends 20 years, just met, dating, family whatever. The only thing/ person you can control is yourself. What other people do to you is just what they do. I see some people putting in so much effort, going out of their way, pulling out all the stops for a person to like them, love them, or be useful to them and the reality is you need to stop searching for something that was never there from the start. We all want to be love & accepted but you’re losing yourself in the process. You can not make anyone want you (remember, the only person you can control is you), you can bribe, buy, lie, cheat and still their attention for a while but that always runs out. Always.
Never put your faith into what someone says, question all of their actions but definitely pay attention to the patterns. If you keep getting screwed over, yea sorry, I blame you, because you had control over yourself enough to make a change and chose not to. Usually all the signs are there for a relationship /friendship to end to protect you, but instead of being strong enough to walk away you stick around for the self destruction, but complain about it. Whats the point in complaining if you’re not gonna do anything about it.
Not everyone way raised the same. Any “friend” that suddenly turns into an enemy has been hating/plotting and setting you up since day 1. You see “sorry” works when a mistake if made, not when trust is broken or loyalty betrayed and some people get screwed but will accept “sorry” as if what the people did was understandable and even worse acceptable. People can only do to you what you allow.
“You can’t be friends with someone who wants your life” -Oprah Winfrey
“Follow your heart, but take your brain with you”- 2Pac