chivalry; addressing the man.

So my last post was to inform you clowns on the code of chivalry. Many people say chivalry has died and don’t even know what the hell it is, but you’re certain you don’t want it back?! (But will turn around and complain how people don’t keep their word, always rude, not loyal, and are cowards…but you don‘t want chivalry back right?)

Chivalry is defined as “the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, esp. courage, honor, courtesy, justice, and a readiness to help the weak, courteous behavior, esp. that of a man toward women”.
Note: It says especially towards a woman, not exclusive just to women.

Someone mentioned to me in a world of equality, chivalry can not exists. Well, wrong again sir. Chivalry is being honest, loyal, giving, not rude & offensive you jack asses! Some of you have the notion to be chivalrous a woman must be helpless… Women like men with confidence and courage, I have a 15 year old, 7pound Pomeranian with bigger balls than some of you.

Okay, you don’t wanna call it chivalry, how about common courtesy. There was once a time people actually treated others they way they wanted to be treated, this was a WAY OF LIFE!  These were just traits embodied by MEN. Somewhere along the road, someone said it was soft or less of a man to be opening doors, for women, here’s the kicker, the guys talking the most sh*t were the ones in that group of guys, while the “sucker” had a girl… *let that sink in* You can show compassion to a woman without being less of a man.

Men used to pride themselves on the traits that were chivalry:

  • Integrity
  • Courage
  • Authenticity
  • Full and Honest Self Expression
  • Self Confidence
  • Lives His Purpose
  • Has Conviction In It and All He Does
  • Has Empathy for others
  • Compassion

( See more at: http://www.realmenlifestyle.com/our-guide-to-being-a-real-man/#sthash.wtnCjsqR.dpuf)

Chivalry held men in a higher light, one that disposed them to heroic actions, now, the description to describe you is sorry. Chivalry keeps getting confused as an action that is suppose to be towards women, when its really a lifestyle to be lived by men. Regardless of if you think a woman wants to be equal, lesser or otherwise, why does that allow you to stop living up to the traits that should make up what is a man?

“The superior man acts before he speaks, and afterwards speaks according to his actions.” ~ Confucius
“The superior man acts before he speaks, and afterwards speaks according to his actions.” ~ Confucius – See more at: http://www.realmenlifestyle.com/our-guide-to-being-a-real-man/#sthash.wtnCjsqR.dpuf
“The superior man acts before he speaks, and afterwards speaks according to his actions.” ~ Confucius – See more at: http://www.realmenlifestyle.com/our-guide-to-being-a-real-man/#sthash.wtnCjsqR.dpuf
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  1. I believe that you are correct. Chivalry appears to have fallen by the wayside. I do not want to use “common courtesy” as a synonym for chivalry. It is common courtesy to say “bless you” after someone sneezes but chivalry demands more. As someone who is chivalrous, to the best of his ability, I am teaching my son the finer art of chivalry. At ten years old, he needs to be aware that you open doors for others, you smile and say “Hi” to others even if they don’t acknowledge you, and finally, you empathize with others when they have losses or gains. Chivalry is a dying art but it is dying because men are being emasculated. Society doesn’t want its males to go over and above the normal behavior. It wants a homogenized race of “men” who don’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

  2. Apimpnamedslickback August 1, 2013 — 12:50 PM

    I agree to an extent it probably has fallen. What you also have to realize is that this generation has been brought up differently so when you expect some of these qualities to be there, they won’. If you expect a kid to understand Mandarin Chinese without being taught to understand it, then you need to quit assuming or expecting. When you say common, you have to look at what is common for this day in age and what is seen as common by society. Also the fact you say that you forgot your common sense, not everything is common to all people that may be to one particular individual. So when you say Men pride themselves on these qualities, yea some do, but that may be the 15% out of 85 that actually do. Prime example, when i’m at my job of four ppl and someone sneezes I may or may not say bless you, its not that I don’t have manners, its that I know they may have no response for me saying it. So its kinda like give respect to get it. Does it make me a bad person? not really, I just know from experience when and when not to say certain things. As it relates to women, some do want a guy to be this night in shining armor, but I refuse to be this knight when your acting like a concubine for every dude in the town. Of course not everyone has this outlook so some things that should already be common may have to be expressed or taught. And some women don’t know there place either as relates to men being chivalrous. If a guy opens your car door and closes it, why cant you lean over and open his? Again as I say, its a give and take type of situation, and it all boils down to your upbringing mainly, for men and women.

    • Apimpnamedslickback August 1, 2013 — 1:01 PM

      If you look at the term its merely a word such as any other. A lot of terms, phrases, and quotes have died off. Should they stay dead? Some should, should they be brought back? Maybe, but its usually in the form of another word or action. People said slavery was dead, we def don’t want it brought back, but isn’t a job modern day slavery? You get up at 6 am to work on someone else’s plantation for whatever wage they think you are worth… hmm? We thought racism was dead, clearly we see that its not. It seems like they are giving gays more rights then some blacks…. Did Zimmerman not just get off? If you want things to be as they were or think something should be brought back, you have to start with the basics and see what effect will it have on you and what impact will it really have. Dead or Alive, what is it that each person wants should really be the question. Pimps up h*&$ down, Love Peace, and Afro Grease!

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